Jesus Loves the Divorced
By Brian Nixon, Special to ASSIST News Service
ALBUQUERQUE, NEW MEXICO (ANS – June 8, 2015)
-- Here’s the good news: according to the National Center for Health
Statistics, there were 2,118,000 marriages in the United States in
2011. If marriage is the backbone of society, then numbers like this
are promising. Healthy marriages can have productive and assuring
results (children, financial stability, cultural strength, and so on).
But like all statistics, there’s another side—in this case, the bad
news: forty to fifty percent of these marriages will end in divorce.
Further research states more somber bad news, "the divorce rate for
subsequent marriages is even higher." In other words, once you've
been divorced, there's a good chance you'll do it again.
And for us as Christians, there's the most concerning news: even
within the church, divorce continues at a high percentage. There is an
ongoing debate as to the actual numbers, but they're generally accepted
to range from thirty to fifty percent.
From a biblical vantage point, divorce is dangerously high, but it’s
part of our human, sin nature—something the Bible addresses throughout
the Old and New Testaments.
As Pastor Skip Heitzig states in his booklet, Divorce and the Christian,
"I've learned something about human nature. When we want to justify
something bad enough, the Bible is never good enough! Like lawyers
looking for loopholes, some people imagine truth to be as pliable as a
Though our culture twists the "rubber band" of marriage (re-defining
it, ignoring it, etc.), the question is: what is the truth regarding
divorce? What does the Bible have to say regarding divorce?
The basic definition for divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court of other competent body." The word is based on the Latin word diverter. The English meaning of the term was based on the word divert (to deter, dissuade, and distract). The Merriam-Webster Dictionary brings these two words together when it defines divorce as a complete separation between two things."
When identifying various Scripture references regarding divorce,
Pastor Skip states, "My concern is that we tamper neither with God’s
Word nor His design." The verses stated here are not comprehensive,
but rather act as foundational truths taken from God’s Word concerning
God’s design for human relationships.
Malachi 2:16: "For the LORD God of Israel says He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence."
Matthew 19:6: "Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
Romans 7: 1-3: "Or do you not know, brethren (for I
speak to those who know the law), that the law has dominion over a man
as long as he lives? For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law
to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is
released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband
lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if
her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no
adulteress, though she has married another man."
1 Corinthians 7:10-15: "Now to the married I
command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her
husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be
reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. But
to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does
not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce
her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is
willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving
husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is
sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but
now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a
brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has
called us to peace."
When developing a plan to assist someone considering a divorce or
walking though a divorce, please remember this one truth: Jesus loves
the divorced person. We are never to hate or condemn the actions, though
in light of God's Word we may or may not condone the actions. As has
been said many times before, we are to love the sinner but hate the sin.
Pastor Skip put it this way: "God speaks strongly against divorce
because, from personal experience, He understand the pain it brings. In
an analogous sense, God was a divorced person. His people turned their
back on Him by worshipping at other altars…But with Jesus Christ,
forgiveness, redemption, and repair are available."
Based on the above counsel, remember to TALK with the person struggling with this issue:
T—speak the truth, showing them what the Bible states concerning the issue.
A—answer any questions they may have, demonstrating
Christ-like patience, acceptance (of them as a person, not the sin), and
L—love them. Compassion for their pain doesn't mean you condone what has been done, it just makes you more like Jesus.
K—remind the Christian that we are citizens of a
different kingdom—God’s kingdom. And because of this, we are to live by
the King’s priorities.
As Pastor Skip summarizes, "There's a time for confrontation and rebuke, but there’s also a time for restoration and repair."
For more information on the Jesus Loves People series, click here: www.jesuslovespeople.com
 http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm, 12/18/14.
 http://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/, 12/18/14.
 http://www.christianitytoday.com/edstetzer/2014/february/marriage-divorce-and-body-of-christ-what-do-stats-say-and-c.html?paging=off, 12/18/14.
 For a complete study on the topic, we recommend Pastor Skip’s teaching, Divorce: When the Bond is Severed: http://skipheitzig.com/teachings_view.asp?ServiceID=1803&q=audio¬es=1
 https://www.google.com/search?q=divorce+%B+definition&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=sb, 12/18/14.
 http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/divorce, 12/18/14.
 Heitzig, Skip. Divorce and the Christian. Connection Communications, 1998. Page 7.
 Heitzig, Skip. Divorce and the Christian. Connection Communications, 1998. Page 21.
Photo captions: 1) Logo. 2) Brian Nixon
the writer: Brian Nixon is a writer, musician, and minister. He’s a
graduate of California State University, Stanislaus (BA) and is a Fellow
at Oxford Graduate School (D.Phil.). As a published author, editor,
radio host, recording artist, and visual artist, Brian spends his free
time with his three children and wife, painting, writing music, reading,
and visiting art museums. To learn more, click here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Nixon.
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